tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4192712187705680797.post9055497440700032966..comments2011-05-30T21:25:56.821-07:00Comments on DearFutureBaby: What to say?MamaBiologisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16875428271116570328noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4192712187705680797.post-44967766592775091012010-10-11T05:53:36.148-07:002010-10-11T05:53:36.148-07:00Ah, I am such a champion grudge holder, too! I tr...Ah, I am such a champion grudge holder, too! I try to let go -- really -- I just can't seem to do it.<br /><br />I guess my advice is that if you feel comfortable doing so, definitely talk to both of them. At first I was going to say that the one who you already said something to you wouldn't need to. But, I think phrasing it in a way to say "I just want to make sure you know where I'm coming from" and maybe in written form would probably be helpful. I know that when I look back on some of the things I said to people before I went through IF, I wish I hadn't said them (and I certainly never told anyone to "just relax") and wish someone would have helped me be more sensitive.<br /><br />What to say? I'm not sure. I'm not great at communicating that sort of thing. I wrote a convoluted e-mail to my friend about it that came out really oddly. But, it seemed to have opened some communication lines between us and was definitely good.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05382638658909144208noreply@blogger.com